2020 is a year that was filled with challenges, uncertainty, trauma, loss and so it continues. Many people experienced loss in 2020, this could have been a job, a sense of financial security, a sense of safety, independence and mobility as well as our loved ones.
None of us will go through our lives without experiencing loss and grief. Loss and its accompanying grief come in many forms. The saddest thing about grief is that it ends up affecting you in many aspects of your life including work. Hence it’s important to deal with grief head-on, face the pain so that one can move on with other aspects of their life.
While most people don’t like change. It’s uncomfortable and unpredictable and we often feel powerless when we go through change. The truth is that we are rarely in control. Life twists and turns, and throws up challenges and obstacles, and we can’t control any of it. We can, however, control and change how we react to it.
The world over, we have experienced a vulnerability that only grief and loss can expose. So far, one of the most powerful lessons we have learned is that we share grief, we are all vulnerable, life is fragile and precious, and it is ok to not be ok.
Below are a few tips to help you cope with grief and loss:
Accept your feelings: Allow yourself to feel what you feel at any given moment, with a sense of self-compassion, and without judgment or comparison. Be mindful of your thoughts and feelings.
Express your feelings: Just as important as accepting your feelings is expressing them in a way that is helpful to you. Keep a journal, talk about it, dance, sing – process your grief and get your feelings out.
Reach out: even in times of social distancing, reaching out is important. Don’t isolate yourself from others. Ask for guidance and support. Find a balance between sitting with yourself and being with others.
Self-Compassion is key: as much as possible, continue to eat well, exercise and maintain your wellness practices. Be kind to yourself and treat yourself with the same love, compassion, and understanding as you would a loved one.
Throughout the world, we are grieving and mourning the loss of the world we used to know, the lives we used to lead, the things we thought we knew. Grief is complicated, and there’s no “right” or “wrong” way to experience it. Grief is not a one-size-fits-all kind of process – it is a deep and unique individual process.
We need to mourn the loss of what used to be, of the people we loved, and to find a renewed sense of meaning. Grief produces resilience when we can hold on to cherished memories and love while still moving forward in our lives. Remember that the way we end something will affect the way the next thing begins. Hanging on to the past and living in regret limits our ability to welcome the new.
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References: Mindful: 5 Ways Mindfulness Can Help Us Work Through Grief; Cruse Bereavement Care: Coping With Trauma And Loss; Helpline: How to Cope with Traumatic Events like Coronavirus; What’s Your Grief: Grief After Traumatic Loss